What I've learned from life is that internal change cannot be enforced; it should be a personal choice which comes with a burning desire.
In one of the coaching training I received, there is a concept of slow to change vs. fast to change types of clients, and as a coach, it has been mind-blowing to see the difference between my clients' tendency to change. In a couple of sentences, slow changers are the ones who need to trust change and move slowly into action. They need to find out how they really feel about something to get to the point where they can say "Now I'm ready to take action". Slow changers are not against change; they just like to process in their own time. On the other hand, fast chargers are ready to take action right away, which may seem to spin you around by their quick decision making. Their way of processing can take place during the change while taking action. A fast changer doesn't mean a quick learner. Quite the contrary, slow changers can be quick learners as well. Either is not better than the other though it may sound like being a fast changer is good.
One of my extraordinary coaching clients recently transitioned to her dream job right after three sessions which awed me in many ways. As a former researcher and science-focused person, I wanted to dissect and analyze everything she did since we've started but I know by experience that there can be multiple factors behind this success. One thing that I can emphasize is her attitude and dedication to change her mindset. She defines herself as a professional who helps her patients and colleagues with her high ethical values and work commitments. The core reason is straightforward...She cares for others and for the quality of her work. We were able to direct these personal strengths towards herself and use them as tools for her goals and improvement.
Change Takes Courage for sure. Whether you are fast or slow to change, the key might be being aware of your true nature and making adjustments accordingly.